Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships – Know the Difference

A healthy relationship is….

  • Caring
  • Honest
  • Respectful
  • Communicative
  • Fun
  • Safe
  • Exciting
  • Mutual trust

But an unhealthy relationship is……

  • Controlling
  • Scary
  • Violent
  • Manipulative
  • Selfish
  • Intimidating
  • Jealous
  • Painful

If you haven’t had much experience of relationships before, knowing the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship can be difficult.

Sometimes, a relationship that starts out well can become scary over time. As unhealthy relationships can make you depressed, scared and even put you in danger, knowing what’s right and what isn’t right when it comes to love is incredibly important.

You feel scared

If you ever feel scared of your partner, or you’re worried about the way they behave when they are drunk or angry, it could be a sign that your relationship isn’t as healthy as it should be.

If they have ever been violent to you or to someone else, or if they just have a bad temper and often scream and shout, there’s a good chance that your relationship is going to be difficult and maybe even dangerous in the long run.

images (6)You can’t be yourself

When you’re in a happy, healthy relationship, you should be able to be yourself without having to worry about what the other person thinks.

If you are having to act more grown up than you feel or pretend to enjoy things that you don’t, your relationship may well be unhealthy.

They try to control you

It’s normal to be interested in each other’s lives so lots of people in relationships will ask their partner where they’ve been and what they’ve been doing at the end of the day, but if your partner always wants to know where you’ve been, who you’ve been talking to and what you’ve been doing, it could be a sign that they are becoming controlling.

If they become angry when they don’t know where you are or when you don’t tell them where you’ve been, you should consider talking to an adult you trust and possibly ending your relationship.

They ask you to do things you’re not comfortable with

In an unhealthy relationship, your partner might ask you to do things that you’re not comfortable with ‘because you love them’ or they might threaten you with violence if you don’t do what they say.

Either way, this could be the start of dangerous pattern of behaviour that could leave you vulnerable, scared and in danger of exploitation.

If you think that your relationship is unhealthy, take a look at some of our other blogs for information and advice. If you’re in an unhealthy relationship and are being asked or forced to do things you’re not comfortable with chat to us online or call the Rose Project today on 0808 800 1037.